4 Exercises To Attract The Romance You Want
Are you in a loving and committed relationship that has lost its luster and excitement overtime?
Ugh, those can feel confusing but don’t worry babe, I got you!
I am a sucker for romance and if you have found someone that is so wonderful, then that person is worth putting in some work for, sis!
I understand that the word work might be the last thing you want to hear in your already busy life but I promise it is way more pleasurable than it sounds. Although, sometimes it can feel like it is our partner that is lacking initiative or presence instead of us, (after all, a man should lead right ;) and though this may be true, you still have to do some inner digging to spark the ways inside of you that can inspire him to lead romantically.
Remember that you cannot badger a man into being more romantic, attentive or anything, really. A man must be inspired by you and your suggestions.
I know right, great! More work for women but you know what, it is moments such as these that remind women of why we are so amazing and invincible.
HERE ARE 4 EXERCISES THAT WILL GET YOU ALIGNED TO THE ROMANCE YOU WANT
Changing The Tide Waves
Love is a complex experience and its depth is like the ocean. Give it too much freedom and it will shift a lot and it may drown you. Too much control and you will never experience its magic and wonder. Stay balanced enough to still be fascinated by love!
Imagine yourself as the sailor on this boat that is your union, riding the waves of love.
You are not going to wait for your partner to change, you are going to take initiative in a soft way.
You will begin by addressing ways in which you can slow down and make more time for your love and your self care.
If there is a will, there is a way- cancel that social dinner, go to an earlier fitness class or one less class that week, meal prep or leave dinner in the slow cooker, postpone that errand, etc.
Surrendering to the desire of love, already puts you in a powerful vibration for it.
Imagine yourself receiving more love and admiration by doing less and instead, being more.
How? In being less busy, you have time to be more present with feeling and that is your golden ticket to lover’s paradise.
Create a schedule and life, where less is more.
I am not telling you to put yourself aside for your dude, I am reminding you that the tasks and career moves of baddy babes do not end. Learn to prioritize the slow down and even your health and aging will thank you for it!
Look, love is not easy to find- despite tinder culture. If you have a great partner, then he should feel worth the extra effort of schedule changes. The worst feeling is breaking up and then admitting that you could have done more but didn’t want to be inconvenienced, ouch!
Gift yourself first what you crave from him.
The Sailor’s Inner Assessment
Before discussing your thoughts and feelings with your loved one, it’s important to get vulnerable and honest with yourself first.
When you have not checked in with you, then the first and most important relationship you have is lacking intimacy.
How then, do you expect to deepen intimacy with another?
Neglecting ourselves makes us feel incomplete and ungrounded, overtime. We might then begin to place those needs on our partner, which is not only unfair but it is also very wrong.
Your partner is not responsible for your happiness. When you do that, you are placing energy and power where it does not belong, sis. If you struggle with this notion, definitely stick around my work for more self-loving practices.
One of my favorite ways to begin this journey of self-intimacy is with a warm cup of cacao and a journal.
The Goddess who makes this yummy blend that is already prepared (perfect for my busy gals), is nestled in the sacred land of Sedona!
Cacao opens up the heart and its natural giving magnesium calms the nervous system, both of which allow each conversation to be more aligned with the truth of our heart.
-Photo from my cute little chateau stay in Topanga, Ca.
Take a moment to sit or lay in silence.
Allow your body and mind to relax.
Play relaxing music that you can calmly sway to.
Light on incense or your favorite candles.
Take deep breaths, feel them deeply, fully and truly.
You are safe to be fully yourself in this solitude!
Allow for a very real conversation with yourself.
Are You Happy, sis?
Are there changes that you need to make to increase the capability of joy and gratitude in your daily life?
The answers might be deep like seeking therapy or as simple as deciding to embark on more consistent exercise, more water, less coffee, 5-10 minutes everyday of meditation, more massages, less mental distractions, more dancing, more kisses, more laughs, etc!
Whatever it is, remember that you need to feel whole everyday, regardless of what your partner is doing or didn’t do. You are your most precious relationship and if you want to improve the one with your partner, you must first improve the one with yourself.
Lastly, envision all the reasons in your life for which you are grateful.
Hopefully your partner is one of them!😉
Create the necessary changes and plans. Be whole before you approach another to complete you.
Get Your Sexy Back
How embodied are you?
Do you feel sexy everyday?
Sometimes women expect men to find them attractive but then we talk badly about our bodies or certain body parts, every chance we get.
If we cannot accept ourselves fully while embracing every part of us, why would we expect anyone else to do it?
Energy does not lie, sis. It is straightforward and it speaks louder than words sometimes can. This is how you will begin to inspire your partner to turn on the moves because you will first turn them on for yourself. I love this part!
Here is where you find your sexiness and full appreciation for you, All Of You!
Get to dancing, breathing loudly, affirm out loud the things you love about yourself, try anything that feels good to your body, with a wide open mouth stick your tongue out, whatever!
Feel yourself completely and meet your activated self.
Turn Your Energy ON and Allow Yourself to Relax Into Your Wild!
HERE IS THE TRICK
Feel yourself being you. Feel yourself being you. Feel yourself being you. Feel yourself being you. Feel yourself being you. Feel yourself being you. Feel yourself being you. Feel yourself being you. Feel yourself being you. Feel yourself being you. Feel yourself being you. Feel yourself being you.
Be An Even Better Lover Than Your Partner!
Why? Because again, you are your most intimate and dependable relationship so be your own best lover.
Turn yourself on and you will learn to wear that deeply rooted sex appeal as your authentic confidence. After which, your partner will have no choice energetically but to feel driven to you!
And that my darling, is how you will inspire him to romanticize you without ever having to say it.
The feminine way is to communicate with more movements and fewer words. We leave the talking for the work meetings. Allow your dance in the cosmic flow of passion and love and not just for him and the health of your union but for YOU, you sexy woman! Whatever comes up during this entire process, know that it is okay.
Approach these exercises in a shame-free and blame-free zone.
Through all of these practices, please remember that you are a human being who simply wants to be happy just like everybody else.
You are living this amazing yet complex life and you are doing YOUR BEST. Congratulate Yourself, Babe!
Honestly; living our own lives while aiming to be purposeful, a good partner, friend, family member and human takes a lot of work! Be compassionate with yourself and be kind with your partner, we are all just wanting to be happy.
Do these practices consistently as a lifestyle and be ready to attract the same energy that you are now embodying!
Don’t forget your cacao babe…
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Happy Self Loving!
xo
D.R.